How Coaching Works and How It Differs From Therapy

People often arrive unsure whether what they need is coaching, therapy, or counseling. It’s a fair question, and the honest answer is that the three overlap in some ways and differ sharply in others. Here’s how I’d describe the distinctions.

Primary focus

Psychotherapy: Treating psychological disorders; understanding and resolving deep-rooted emotional patterns

Counseling: Working through a specific difficulty or life stressor

Professional Coaching: Clarifying goals, motivation, and direction; building on existing capability

Typical starting question

Psychotherapy: “What is causing this distress, and how do we treat it?”

Counseling: “How do I cope with what I’m facing right now?”

Professional Coaching: “What do I want, what’s getting in the way, and how do I get there?”

Orientation in time

Psychotherapy: Often draws on past experience to explain present patterns

Counseling: Mostly present-focused

Professional Coaching: Present and forward-looking

Who provides it

Psychotherapy: Licensed clinicians (psychologists, psychiatrists, LMFTs, LCSWs)

Counseling: Licensed counselors and therapists

Professional Coaching: Coaches, an unlicensed, unregulated profession

Regulated?

Psychotherapy: Yes, state licensure required

Counseling: Yes, state licensure required

Professional Coaching: No

Diagnosis and treatment

Psychotherapy: Yes

Counseling: Sometimes

Professional Coaching: Never

Insurance

Psychotherapy: Often covered

Counseling: Often covered

Professional Coaching: Not covered

Appropriate when

Psychotherapy: You’re dealing with a mental health condition, significant distress, trauma, or crisis

Counseling: You’re navigating a specific challenge and want clinical support

Professional Coaching: You’re functioning well and want more clarity, motivation, or alignment

Which one is right for you?

Coaching is likely a good fit if you’re managing well overall, holding down demanding work, meeting your responsibilities, and want more clarity, stronger motivation, or a better fit between what you’re doing and what you actually want.

Therapy is the better choice if you’re dealing with persistent depression or anxiety, trauma, thoughts of harming yourself, substance dependence, or distress that’s interfering with your ability to function day to day. These are areas where licensed clinical care matters, and coaching is not a substitute for it.

It’s also completely reasonable to do both. Many people work with a therapist on one set of concerns while working with a coach on goals and direction. If you’re currently in therapy, I’d encourage you to mention our work to your therapist.

Where I fit

My background is in psychological research: a PhD in Psychology, postdoctoral research, and more than two decades studying motivation and behavior change. That research background shapes how I work: the methods I use are grounded in evidence rather than intuition alone.

But I work as a coach, not as a clinician. I don’t diagnose conditions, I don’t treat mental illness, and I don’t provide crisis care. What I offer is a structured, evidence-informed way of understanding your own motivation and building a life that fits it.

If you’re in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), available 24/7, or go to your nearest emergency room. Please don’t wait for a scheduled session.